Why it is so easy to pile things to do on our plates?

kim ravida

 

Have enough?

As business owners, it’s easy to have loads on our plates (er…desks). We all have enough things to do, places to go, and items to manage.

And why is it so easy to end up with our proverbial plates piled higher than we even stand? Well, lots of things and one stands out among them all…the inability to say no.

No is a single and complete sentence. Yet, so many business owners feel they have to offer more and more specifically, they have to say why they can’t or don’t want to do something.

So they end up saying yes, hence the high piles of things to do, places to go and items to manage. And no time for doing what they truly want.

How to say no.

If you found yourself saying “yup, that’s me, I just can’t say no.” Let me tell you that 1) it’s ok for no to escape your lips often and 2) no one will die if you do (not even you =).

True you might feel bad, but you’ll get over it and it gets easier. I was a serial YESer. I’d say yes to everything. I did it because I wanted people to like me and think I was helpful. Only a funny thing happened, I ended up not liking myself and I certainly wasn’t as much help as I could have been to those I said yes to because I resented saying yes.

That’s no way to be respectful of yourself or others. I discovered my reason for yes after working with my own business coach and the second I did, I felt a weight lift off my shoulders. I felt freer than I ever had.

How to say no easily is simple, p-r-a-c-t-i-c-e! You need to practice saying no. Here are a few for you to practice with:

  • Short response: No.
  • Feeling the need to say more: No, thank you.
  • Wanting to expand it a bit: No, I won’t be able to help you (do that for you) with that.
  • Said succinctly: No.

There is no reason for you to be sorry.

You will notice that no where in your practice material are the words I’m sorry. Because I’m sorry has no place here. We are accustomed to using “I’m sorry” as a habit. If you really, really, really want to offer a reason for your no, be honest and to the point. Here is the thing, you either DO want to say yes or you DON’T and when you don’t the respectful response is no (full sentence, end of conversation).

If you do feel sorry, why is that? What is it you feel you need to do or be for yourself to feel good about your saying no? Give some thought to that. My guess is you’ll discover what it is I discovered which for me was I wanted to be liked, ultimately that lead to a fear of not wanting to be rejected. Once I discovered that and knew that truly no one can reject me (that only happens because of how I feel), saying no became easy.

The result of saying no.

There are many benefits to saying no to things that are not for you to do, you have more time, you get more things done, you feel better, you truly enjoy what you are doing, you no longer need to complain, you no longer need to feel bad about yourself and not getting to the things that are most important to you. You get so many benefits.

What is one thing you need to say no to right now? Go and do it. And here’s a tip, you can say no even if you already said yes. It’s called “I changed my mind.” And like with no, it’s a complete sentence. and yes, in this case, you can say “I’m sorry, I changed my mind.” Because here it fits. Though you certainly do not have to say I’m sorry ever in these instances.

Give this a shot and I’d love to hear from you about how it goes, if you would like to share your experience here, post in the comment section below.

Are you having a hard time saying no? Let’s practice together, schedule a 30-minute complimentary Productive Planning For Success Strategy Session with me. You’ll walk away feeling confident about saying No without any guilt!

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How do you and your time get along?

 

Being purposeful with your time.

You and your time not getting along? Time can either draaaaaag or it can go like a snap of the fingers.

Are you among the many business owners that it just goes like a snap of the fingers? Do you often end your day thinking “wow, I never got to do everything I wanted to do? If you are there is a way to overcome that.

One of the most important things you need to do is to be purposeful with your time. In my last blog I talked about being purposeful in order to reach your success and how to stay on target when the going gets tough.

The next thing you need to do is be purposeful with your time.

How to make time stand still (or seem like it).

Let’s say you have 7 working hours and you have 10 things to do. How often do you take the time to write out how long each task will take? Probably not very often (for many of my clients, until they start working with me, it’s never).

If you were to take 5-10 minutes to give some thought to how long each task will take you, you will soon know if you’ll have time for all of them. And an added benefit to you is that you more than likely will decide that a couple of things don’t even need to be done now.

It’s time to make time stand still for you!

Do a time assessment of how long everything you do takes you. This may take about a week or so. Don’t despair, it is time well invested. Once you know how long things take to do and how many hours you have in a particular day or week, you can now easily schedule them to be done.

Give this a shot and I’d love to hear from you about how it goes, if you would like to share your experience here, post in the comment section below.

Still finding that time disappears on you? Schedule a 30-minute complimentary Productive Planning For Success Strategy Session with me. You’ll walk away with a clear picture of how to be purposeful with your time to begin using it purposefully now!

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Learn how to Design Your Success with Purpose

 

Being purposeful when planning for your success.

If you are looking to make this year the year for yourself and your business, there are several things you need to know. You need to purposely plan for it. In other words, you need to design your success. In other, other words, what is it you will do in order to get the results you want?

Three things that I consider important for a success formula are:

  1. Intentions
  2. Plans
  3. Actions

Each of them, if executed properly will always equal results. See it’s not the results that people struggle with, you more than likely already know what you want. It’s setting the intentions, creating the plan and then taking the steps to get them that is often the problem.

Staying on target when the going gets tough.

So often my clients tell me that they didn’t take an action or do something they said they wanted to do. It usually is because they got scared, didn’t know what to do or got caught up in “other things”.

When this happens, remembering your purpose for doing what you are doing will go a long way. Some people call it their “big why” and asking one of the following questions of yourself can help get you back on track:

  • Why did I go into business for myself?
  • What is my purpose for doing this?
  • What is my WHY for being in business?

Look, it’s easy to get pulled off target, especially running a business and having a life! It’s not that it won’t happen and what’s important for you is to go back to your purpose so you can get back on track. That’s how you design your success.

No one is going to give you anything, you have to go and get it.

One thing I know for sure is that no one will knock on your door or phone you up and say “hey, here is your success!”

You have to go and get it. You have to make it happen.

Here a several steps for you to take to help you design your success with purpose:

  • Write down your 3-5 business results you want for the year. This will be your purpose for the year. And it will be your guide so that you stay on target.
  • Set your intentions for the year. What is your purpose or attitude toward what it is you want to accomplish? Write it down. You could say this is your mission statement.
  • What is the plan for you to reach those results? Create a list of steps that you will use to achieve your goals. Make sure you put a timeline on each of the steps and then put that into your calendar so you stay on target. This is your business plan.
  • List out and schedule your daily, weekly and monthly actions. What is it you will actually be doing that will, in the end, mean you have accomplished what you set out to do? It’s key for you to schedule these in your calendar so that you actively see where you are and where you are going.

It’s time to make your success happen!

Now all you need do it take the actions! And as you do that, new information will come to you and maybe from that new actions. Keep moving forward with your plan and adjust as you need to. Remember, you are the one who is designing your success and since it’s with purpose, you get to course correct anytime you need to.

Give this a try and I’d love to hear from you about how it goes, if you would like to share your experience feel free to post in the comment section below.

And if you are pulling your hair out trying to put this success formula in place and would like help, schedule a 30-minute complimentary Productive Planning For Success Strategy Session with me. You’ll walk away with a plan (with immediate actions =) for you to get to started!

Bonus:  Watch my recent Facebook Live class on Design Your Success with Purpose for more tips and help with designing your success for 2018.

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