What Do I Do?

September 25, 2013 By

What do I do?I get asked this a lot!  I get it from my business clients and from my fitness clients – and it is usually after someone has said yes to something but now wants to say no. They feel that they can’t change their mind and ask me “Ya, but what do I do?”  I know, it’s a real loop, isn’t it?

It is important to understand and realize that just because we said yes in the first place does not mean that we can never go back and say no.  We agree to do things for many reasons which are usually valid at the time when we say yes.  However then often we have time to think about it and realize a no would have been the best choice.  We genuinely want to help so it’s uncomfortable because we don’t want to disappoint or not be a team player.

Don’t get me wrong, there are times we want to change our mind because we are afraid or are out of our comfort zone and think we can’t do something.  That is not what I am talking about.  I’m talking about things we have said yes to that take us away from our desired outcomes or goals.  Like a client who signed up for a weekly networking meeting and later realized that it was taking her away from running her business and impacting when she could see her clients.  This ultimately led to impacting her money-making abilities so she needed to say no after saying yes.

Where in your life do you need to say no after you have said yes?  Trust me; it isn’t as scary as your gremlin is making it out to be.  We aren’t talking about being mean.  We are all entitled to change our minds and we do not need to offer a great detailed explanation as to why.

You probably think if you say no then:

  • people won’t like you
  • you’ll let others down and they’ll be disappointed in you
  • you’ll look like a failure or worse, you’ll feel like a failure

I am here to tell you that the above are not true!

What is really happening is that you are telling yourself a story about what you think will happen.  You’re talking yourself out of doing what is best for you.  If you aren’t true to yourself, what will happen is that you end up full of resentment, frustration and—even worse—anger at both yourself and the other person.  Let me ask you, do you think this is a good thing?  No, of course it isn’t and you know that.  Which is why you have such an internal tug-o-war; your inner guidance knows it needs to say no and your ego is saying that you can’t.

Saying no authentically and with compassion for both yourself and the other person is the only way to honor yourself. 

I remember the first time I said no after saying yes.  Was I nervous and afraid?  You bet I was.  However, it felt so good that I spoke up for myself and for what I wanted and needed!  Did the world end?  Of course it did not, and it won’t when you do it.

Is there something or someone that you said yes to that now you want to say no?  I encourage you to speak up confidently and say “I know that I said I would do xyz, but I realize that I won’t be able to.”  Sometimes you may be able to make a recommendation or suggestion for a replacement, and if you are by all means please do; just don’t do that in order to take the pressure off of you.  Come from a true place of self-empowerment and you will always feel good about yourself. 

Also, feel free to share your thoughts, insights and revelations below!

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Are You Kidding Me?!

September 11, 2013 By

Are you kidding me?!As business owners we often try lots of things to build our business.  We go to networking events, meet new people, and try marketing different ways.  Some things work and some do not.  This is the same for health and fitness; in our quest to be healthy, lose weight and get off medications, we try lots of things.  Some stuff works and some stuff doesn’t.

To be successful in both business and health we need to do what will work for us… and what works for us does not necessarily work for others.  We get disappointed when we try something that someone else swears by and we don’t end up with the same results.  We usually find ourselves saying “Are you kidding me?!  I just spent all this time or all this money and it didn’t work!”

Well, in my book that’s actually a good thing!  Why?  Because now we know what doesn’t work so we can move on to something that will.

Sure, occasionally it means giving stuff up.  A business client of mine joined a networking group that met weekly in the early morning.  She hadn’t wanted to join this group because she wasn’t a morning person (especially when having to be somewhere early), the meetings were a regular set-in-stone routine (which she didn’t do well with) and it was all for in-person work (she actually did lots of virtual and over the phone work). But because she was told by others that this was the way to build her business, she did it and went against what she knew to be true for her.

She told me how miserable she was after “spending all this money” to join and how it was actually taking her away from growing her business and her clients.  I asked her what she wanted to do about it.  She said she couldn’t drop out because of the money she invested and the commitment she made.  So I pointed out that it was working against her and costing her time and money.  That in order for her to do what she wanted to do, and what would be more in line with what would work for her style, “dropping out” didn’t seem like such a bad idea.

Her response to me was (you probably already guessed), “Are you kidding me?!  And waste it all?!”  No, I wasn’t.  She didn’t waste a single moment; she actually gained a whole lot.  She now knew that this type of activity was not for her and did not do her business any good – in fact, it held her back.  There is such value in that!

When you sell yourself out, you can pretty much count on stress, frustration and overwhelm to be at your door.  On the other hand, you will never disappoint yourself if you follow your heart and do what makes you happy.  It’s really quite simple: when you honor yourself and what you want, and do what you love with enthusiasm, and it will all be effortless.

Are you still skeptical like my client was?  Here are several tips to help you:

  • Know what you are doing and why you want to do it.
  • Know your likes and dislikes because when you know yourself, you never have to second guess yourself.
  • Trust you are the best judge and no matter what anyone else has to say, you are the only person that knows you and what pleases you.

If you are still saying “Are you kidding me?!  I can’t do this or that because (you fill in the blank)”, I want to know why.  Email me personally or share your thoughts, insights and revelations below. Let’s get you past this hurdle!

 

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Wonder Why You Can’t Reach Your Goals?

July 22, 2013 By

goalThere was a long period in my life where it seemed to me I wasn’t reaching my goals.  What I didn’t realize at the time was that I was out of alignment with my values, so reaching my goals was next to impossible.  And why I didn’t realize this was because I didn’t even know what a value was!  Oh sure, I knew the ‘value’ of something I was buying:  was I getting a good value on the new car or was that a good value for the dinner I wanted.  Stuff like that.  However, I had no idea that lacking my own personal values was causing me to be so unhappy and never attaining what I wanted (aka my goals).

OK, so what is a value?  Well you know me, I like to pull out the thesaurus.  When it comes to your personal values, some of the words that come up are: importance, worth, significant, and meaning.

A personal value can easily be defined as your preferences.  I have a very high value for freedom and fun and, yes, those are my preferences.  Maybe you can relate.  I like to have fun and when I have fun, I feel really good… and since I like to feel good, fun, therefore, is important to me.  I also like not being told to do things – one of the reasons I decided to quit working for someone else and go out on my own.  I get to create the freedom I want (and really, ultimately need).

If you are having a hard time getting results and reaching your goals, check in with your values.  Chances are your values are not being met… or, like I used to be, you really don’t even know what you value.

So to give you an idea of what values are, here is a short list:

  • Compassion
  • Comfort
  • Ease
  • Energy
  • Faith
  • Freedom
  • Fun
  • Intellect
  • Love
  • Mindfulness
  • Perfection
  • Professionalism
  • Respect
  • Sharing
  • Thoughtfulness

Personal values are internal and act as a reference for what is good, beneficial, important and useful for us… no one else.  They generate behavior.  For instance, let’s say your top three values are:  fun, ease and love.  You have decided you want to get in shape.  If you incorporate your top three values of fun, ease and love into your workout plan, you can bet your behavior is going to bring you success.  You would find something you really have fun doing like taking a dance class, that fits into your schedule with ease, and you show your love for yourself (yes, you can love yourself just like you love the others in your life) by committing to going regularly.

Another example: you are a new business owner and trying to figure out how to run your business.  You value compassion, professionalism and respect.  You would set up your business by creating systems that support your top three values.  To satisfy your value of compassion, you would speak kindly to your prospective and/or current clients.  Your value of professionalism would show up in being timely with invoices, paying bills and returning calls/emails.  Your value of respect shows your clients that you have a high opinion of them and you genuinely care and are authentic.  As a business owner, these all will lead to prospective clients getting to know, like and trust you.  Not only are you able to help more people, but you are able to generate more income all while honoring your values.  It’s a win/win situation all around.

Once you know your values, your life becomes simply the best with grace and ease and you find that you are in a flow.  You get what you want quickly and your goals get accomplished faster.  Everything comes easy.  And one other thing happens, you know what goals you want to work on and how you are going to reach them!

You know I love to hear your success stories, and this one is no different.  I would love for you to shoot me an email or share on my Facebook page.  I always love that because then you get to help others just by sharing your success!  Also, feel free to share your thoughts, insights and revelations below!

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How Independent Are You?

July 8, 2013 By

flag and fireworksWe just celebrated Independence Day in the United States and it got me thinking about being independent.  Many of us think we are independent yet we really aren’t.  We are often driven by outside influences, some people refer to them as ‘outside forces’, that work against us… or so we believe.  Truth be told, we have all the power to be independent right within us.

What does independent mean anyway?  Some other words are:  self-governing, self-determining, self-regulating and my favorite, free.

How many times have you made a decision based on how it would positively affect those around you?  Think about it.  You believed if you made a certain choice, something you truly wanted to do, that it would upset or inconvenience someone else… so you didn’t.  You didn’t go out to dinner with your girlfriends because your spouse would have to prepare his own dinner on the fly.  You didn’t attend a one-day seminar on a topic that really interested you because your mom wanted you to help clean out her closets that day.

Is that being independent?

It’s true, we think we are acting of our own free will but instead we often put our own wants, desires and needs aside to please someone else.  Now I’m not saying for you to stop doing that, what I am bringing to the table is to think about how many times you are acting independently.

Dependency is sneaky; sometimes we don’t even know we are being that way and falling into the trap.  We think we’re doing something nice for our spouse, our children, our parents, or our friends but then we get annoyed at them because—for goodness sake!—we are doing it for them and they don’t even appreciate what we’re giving up.

When you decide to lose weight for someone other than yourself, you are being dependent.  When you say yes when you want to say no, you are being dependent.  If you truly want to be independent, you must start speaking up and making your needs and wants known.  You will also have to be prepared for someone to get upset with you or inconvenienced.  It’s how it goes.  You can’t please everyone all the time.

Some very simple (yet not often easy) ways for you to empower yourself are:

  1. Say YES when you really want to.
  2. Say NO when you really want to.
  3. Don’t be afraid to say NO after you have said YES.

It’s absolutely amazing when you empower yourself, those around you are both inspired and empowered, too.  Don’t you think you deserve that?  Don’t you think your loved ones deserve that?  Absolutely, you all do!

In the end, the true independence you give yourself will be well worth it.  You will be happy with your life and your decisions.  You will wholeheartedly be there for those you love, while allowing them to become independent also.  Together you will create unity, freedom… and justice for all!

I would love for you to share what you have done to assert your independence and inspire it in others. Please share your thoughts, insights and revelations below!

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Want to Expand Time?

June 24, 2013 By

turn time backIs there a little voice in your head that seems to repeat “I don’t have enough time to get everything done” or “I wish I had more time to do other things”?  We always want and need additional time, yet if time is the one thing that is equal to all, why do other people seem to accomplish more?  Why can’t we get done what we want to in the time we have available?

Now first, I want to tell you that I struggled with time for years.  I was constantly late for everything (just ask my supervisors when I worked in corporate or my family).  I didn’t mean to be late; it just happened I never had enough time to get ready, to arrive on time, to be prepared.  Time was my enemy and we battled frequently.

I believe, as a whole, we think it takes too much time to get in shape, to live a healthy lifestyle, to work enough to support our families, or to sit down and plan for our future.  Shoot, it just takes too long to get through the grocery store once a week!  Right?

Well… no.  I have learned we actually have all the time that we need.

Here are three key lessons I want to share with you to release all the stress and overwhelm related to time.

Lesson #1:  Be clear about what you want to accomplish.  When you don’t know exactly what you want to accomplish, you can’t have a true idea about how long it will take.  However, knowing what your goal is gives you a starting point from which to plan what you need to do, assess how long it will take, and what you need to have in order to reach your goal in a timely manner.  So whether it’s to arrive on time somewhere, have more down-time or lose 10 pounds, know what you want.

Lesson #2:  Be realistic about how long a task will take.  How many times have you said something like “I’m going to quickly balance my checkbook” only to experience a string of problems that take far too long to fix?  Maybe you found a discrepancy in your accounting or realized you forgot to pay a bill.  When you are unrealistic (i.e. “quickly”) with how long something should take, time seems to shorten.  In order to expand time, you need to be practical. 

Lesson #3:  Plan your steps.  Here’s another one:  You found a great healthy recipe online and decide you are going to whip it together one evening for dinner.  When that evening arrives, however, you realize you don’t have all the ingredients on hand you thought you did.  Or by the time you dash into the kitchen and read the recipe again, you discover you were supposed to marinate something for a few hours first.  However, if you take the time to create action steps for this new recipe, you will have all the ingredients beforehand and allow the proper time to complete it.

In essence, once you take to heart the lessons I shared above, you will stop adding too much on your To Do list and putting undue pressure on yourself.   You’ll be much more at peace and find that you will have way more time than you thought.  I promise you will reach your goals and feel good about yourself again!

I’d love to hear your experiences.  As always, I invite you to write to me or feel free to share your thoughts, insights and revelations below.  You never know how they may help someone else!

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What’s Money Got To Do With It?

June 10, 2013 By

financial freedomIf you are trying to lose weight and are unsuccessful, chances are you need some help.  Asking for help is a sign of strength, yet so many people are reluctant to do it.  The main reason I hear is lack of money.  People say “I can’t afford it.”  Yet in my book, that’s an excuse.  I hear lots of excuses from my group and private clients, and it usually all comes back to the mighty dollar.

A coaching client of mine recently lost a significant amount weight, yet she continued wearing her old plus-size clothes when she should have been wearing a size 10-12!  Why?  She told me she couldn’t spend money on clothes because they are expensive and, besides, she still had weight to lose.  As a coach I am supposed to be completely non-judgmental, yet I really got upset with her.  She made these significant strides forward in her health and fitness, creating a great healthy life for herself, yet she was sabotaging her success by wearing clothes that didn’t fit, didn’t look good, and she felt bad wearing!

After getting to the bottom of why she felt she couldn’t spend money, she realized she was caught up in an old money story (we all have them).  She grew up with the message that you “wear the clothes that you have because they are decent clothes and good money was spent on them”.  So we worked on her money stories (oh yes, she had more than one).  In the end she was finally able to go out and spend some money on herself with a clear conscious.  She got new outfits that were flattering to her new figure—and guess what?  She felt like a million bucks after that.

You can see how that mindset of “I can’t afford” isn’t supportive or healthy when it comes to self esteem.  All of us have ingrained messages, which we often aren’t aware of, that hold us back.  Coaching is great at bringing these messages to the surface so we can address them and move on.  Once we know what to look for, we can see them coming from a mile away and head them off before they do any damage.

Since they tend to show up as excuses, here are just a few I hear all the time that are related to money (and old money stories) as well as some tips for letting them go.

Excuse 1:  It’s too expensive, I can’t afford it.  “It” usually pertains to something that—if you did it, bought it, got it or had it—would  make your life easier or better in some way, but you use the fallback excuse above.  It’s so easy to say; it feels comfortable coming out of your mouth and you are used to saying it.  When you hear yourself saying “I can’t afford it, it’s too expensive”, ask yourself what old money story makes you think that way.  Then ask yourself how would you feel if you did have it; what would your life be like?  It might just be that you can’t afford not to have it.

Excuse 2:  I’m not ready to spend the money yet.  When will you be ready?  How is waiting to be ready to spend the money for what you want going to bring you any closer to it?  In weight loss, how is not being ready to buy new clothes helping you?  You have an opportunity to look and feel good immediately yet you make an excuse not to.  Be ready wherever you are.  Change your money story to “I am ready and willing to spend the money now to feel and look great because I am worth it!”

Excuse 3:  I can’t… Clients have said to me:  “I can’t afford a gym membership to get in shape” or “I can’t afford to eat healthy”… I can’t, I can’t, I can’t.  Again, in my book that’s just a bunch of BS.  Here’s why.  Think about something you wish you had done differently in your past, like not joining a gym last year when you first wanted to lose weight or not buying the adorable outfit you saw a few months ago that you really wish you had now the weather is nice.  So now notice the feeling of disappointment or regret you’re experiencing.  Not fun, is it?  Stop having regrets and being disappointed!  What is one thing you want to do but are saying “I can’t”?  Go and do it.

I suggest you tell everyone you are close to and spend time with regularly that you are on a journey.  Whether it’s to improve health and fitness or dissecting your money story or something else, getting help and having accountability to reach your goals will be easier when you have support. It will help you get from “I can’t” to a resounding “I can… and will!”

Go out and spend some money on yourself and feel on top of the world because of it!

I’d love to hear your thoughts; drop me an email or feel free to share your insights and revelations below!

P.S. If you are still having a hard time and feel disorganized and frustrated with money, send me an email.  I have a wonderful new program that might be a good fit for you.  It will bring you financial freedom and inner worth by helping you remove any limits on your money story.  Just put in the subject line:  I want financial freedom!

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Do You Think Confidence Equals Success?

May 24, 2013 By

Thermometer - Confidence Level

If you said yes, you would be on the right path to your success.  Confidence plays a huge role in our personal and professional lives.  When we are confident and feel good about what we are doing and how we are doing it, we do more of it and that brings more success.

Take weight loss for example.  I have several clients who felt a lot of doubt about whether they could get in shape and be healthy.  (By the way, doubt is the antonym of confidence.)  What they learned was that their success was directly related to confidence.  And oh yeah, once they started to see that, boy did they get amazing results!

Don’t take my word for it.  Just ask 22-year-old Torey Krug a Boston Bruins defenseman who played most of the season in the minor league.  Inserted into the Bruins lineup during the playoffs due to injuries of veteran players, he scored two amazing goals in his first two games.  He was asked by a local broadcaster what he thought attributed to his success.  Torey’s answer:  confidence.  Keep in mind this kid was no Wayne Gretzky out of college.  He went undrafted.  Could he have felt doubt, sure, but he didn’t because he knows the road to success is paved with confidence.

“Ya but…” I can hear you saying.  It’s normal to feel doubt, uncertainty, hesitation and all the feelings of ‘I can’t’.  But really, what if you could?  What if you could feel confident right now no matter what?  How would that change your outlook?  What would you do?

Here are three tips to help you feel more confident so that what you want to achieve seems to simply appear.

Tip 1:  Think back to a time when you felt really great about accomplishing something.  Was it when you finally got off the couch and took a walk or got the courage up to join a group exercise class or began a weight loss program and lost weight right away?  Whatever it was, tap into those feelings.  Those are your touchstones for recalling a feeling confidence and ultimately success.  Write down those feelings and read them regularly – daily is a good idea and first thing in the morning and often last thing in the evening (and during the day if needed).  This helps you maintain a high level of confidence.

Tip 2:  Keep the reason you want to reach your goal top of mind.  When you know why you are doing something, it is much easier to stick to it.  If you decide you are finally getting off the seesaw of diet and exercise and making changes that are part of a healthy and fit lifestyle —write down your whys.  They might be because you want to:  look great, feel energized, join in family outings or participate in your life again rather than sit on the sidelines.  Write them all down and then—just like your feelings of confidence—review them often.

Tip 3:  Get the support you need.  Ask a trusted friend to hold you accountable to your actions and behaviors.  Don’t forget to have them help you though the rough points, too, when you aren’t feeling the confidence you want to reach your success.  Hire a coach.  A coach is someone who is completely on your side, they have your best interests at heart and they are not attached to the outcome which means they are solely there for you and your success.  A coach can help you through the doubts and to feeling and being confident faster.  My clients have reached their goals because they stepped up and worked with me.  I also have a coach, and I can personally attest to having way more confidence and success simply by having a coach on my side.

I challenge you this week to pay attention to when you are feeling doubt.  How and when does it appear… and what follows?  Can you turn it around and stride confidently toward your success?  I bet you can.  I’d love for you to share your thoughts, insights and revelations below!

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Are You Healthy And Wealthy?

May 13, 2013 By

Health Wealth Happiness signpostAre you thinking, “What an odd question?”  If you are, then maybe you aren’t healthy and wealthy!  As a business owner and fitness expert, I know that being healthy is really what makes the business wealthy.

How so?  Well, if we are unhealthy and feeling out of sorts, we don’t have the energy to run our business.  We are not able to effectively execute all that we need to do as a business owner.  We don’t feel like doing it, plain and simple, and then we will force ourselves to do stuff.  When we are sluggish and lethargic, everything seems to take so long.  It feels like such an effort and we never seem to get anything done… and if we do, we find we have made tons of mistakes and have to re-do things.

This is no way to live!

However, when we are healthy we have a lot of energy to run our businesses.  We go to networking events and put our best foot forward to connect with people and make follow-up coffee appointments to get to know the other person better.  We effortlessly tackle our to-do lists and we complete so much more… and we do it right the first time!  New projects excite us and everything is fun.

So you can see how being healthy leads to being wealthy.  Today I am sharing with you three of my top tips for being—and staying—healthy while running and growing your business (and if you don’t have a business, no problem, you can use these tips in living your life).  When I follow these throughout my work day, I feel great and get more done which equals better health and wealth!

  • Tip 1:  Get plenty of sleep.  Most business owners (most people for that fact) don’t get enough sleep.  Give yourself a bedtime and stick to it.  Create a routine around your bedtime so that you have plenty of time to wind down after your day.  Research shows that we need more time than we think to get the sleep our bodies require.  There is no sense jumping into bed without relaxing first because your body and your mind have no time to shift from being active to becoming (then being) inactive.
  • Tip 2:  Drink plenty of water.  Water is key to our survival.  When we are dehydrated we feel tired, sluggish and irritated.  Simply drinking enough water for your body weight is the key to keeping your energy levels up as well as staying focused on what you are doing.  Plus you’ll have breaks built in because you’ll need to get up to go to the restroom!  It’s kind of like a failsafe so that you aren’t stuck sitting at your desk or your workstation for ridiculously extended periods of time with no movement.  Get a fun water bottle or glass and note how many ounces it holds, then aim to drink as many glasses to equal at least 32 oz. if not 64.
  • Tip 3:  Take a break:  You thought I was going to say exercise.  Well yes, that is true.  BUT really what needs to happen is a break, whether it is 5 minutes or a day off.  When you work, work, work, you cannot succeed in being health and wealthy.  The reason is that our brains and bodies need periods of rest to renew and refresh.  Our thinking goes stagnant without breaks as does our bodies (that’s where the exercise comes in).

That’s it – start with those three simple tips and drop me a line on how you feel.  I’d love to compare notes or share your thoughts, insights and revelations below.  Need more help?  Contact me and we can talk about how your health can improve your wealth.

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So You Want to Lose Weight

April 22, 2013 By

day plannerCongratulations, you made a decision to lose weight!  Once you lose it, my guess is that you would like to maintain that healthy weight loss.  If so, that’s another fabulous decision on your part!  Okay then, what have you decided to do about setting the time aside to lose weight?  Oh right, you forgot about that part.

In my experience, the number one reason someone fails to begin a weight loss program is because they feel it is going to take a lot of their time.  It’s true; it can if you let it.  However, with some planning, weight loss doesn’t have to take up your day.  And once you get into a new routine, you create a habit and it becomes second nature.

I always tell my clients, “In the beginning, you will struggle.”  Whether they realize it or not, usually that is the reason they hire me.  They know I am there to hold their hand, help them figure out ways that work specifically for them and to pick them up when they fall down.

Here’s a tip: the joy in reaching any goal is in the journey.  That’s right, the good stuff as well as the not-so-good stuff.  See, it is in the not-so-good stuff where the greatest accomplishments lie.

Trying to change a habit, a behavior, a way of being is not easy but it is so worth it.  Until it becomes ‘just what you do’ and you no longer question it or struggle with it, you need to figure out a plan to make it work.

Here are three things for you to think about as you set off on your journey to losing weight and keeping it off.

  • Change how you think about time.  You might think time is limited – but is it really?  You do only have a certain number of hours in a day – everyone does – so how can you utilize time to work for you?  Try this.  List out what tasks you do in a day, then approximate how long it takes you to do each.  Before you actually begin a task, note the time and write it down.  When you end a task, note the time again and see how long it actually took you.  Seeing how long things truly take you will be big eye opener.  Most people are shocked at the time they lose during a day because they think something is going to take ‘just a moment’.
  • Are you satisfied with how you spend your time on a daily, weekly or monthly basis?  On a scale of 1-10, rate your level of satisfaction with how you spend your time.  Go back to your list and rate each of your daily tasks.  If something isn’t an eight or higher, challenge yourself to stop doing it.  In other words, if you are wasting your time on things that do not bring satisfaction, you will have no time for the things that will bring you satisfaction.
  • Map out your day in time blocks.  It’s easy to say “I don’t have the time”, but you do.  When you know how long your tasks actually take you, schedule them on your daily calendar.  It will help you visualize where your time goes.  You will see where you are losing time and also where you can fit in exercise, shopping for and preparing healthy foods, and taking time for yourself.  If you don’t have enough time for everything, then you need to re-evaluate your priorities.

Following my tips above will help you create the time you need for your weight loss success.  Truly, time is on your side.  Tell me your new plan or share your thoughts, insights and revelations below!

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When Nothing Else Works

April 8, 2013 By

This week’s article is courtesy of my colleague, by Jeanna Gabellini, CPCC – MASTERPEACE Coaching & Training – http://www.MasterPeaceCoaching.com.  Enjoy!

When Nothing Else Works, Use This Strategy for Weight Loss and Increased Profits

 

I recently posted on Facebook that I lost 15 pounds in six weeks. Of all the topics I’ve covered before, this one received the most “likes” and comments. I was shocked. Naturally, people really wanted to know my secret.

The short answer: I went on a raw foods cleanse and joined the gym.

The majority of people who tried this would not get the same results. That’s because there is so much more to the story than diet and exercise.

The real story about my long-desired weight loss?

When I got pregnant with baby #2, I set the intention of manifesting my ideal body after his birth. I lost a ton of weight in those first few months, but my body would not release those last 25 pounds.

My baby’s sleep pattern kept me from sleeping through the night until just recently. And that lack of sleep made me feel very unlike myself. I was out of balance with two kids, a business to run and no energy.

When you feel like that, you begin manifesting lots of stuff you don’t want. I got sick more often; I was cranky; and while my gross income kept rising, so did my expenses.

Every day I looked in the mirror and was irritated by what I saw. The same thing happened every time I looked at my expenses. There came a point where I said, “My mission is not to lose weight or decrease expenses. I have to be okay right where I am right now —tummy pooch and sky-high bills included”.

By the way, it wasn’t like I wasn’t doing anything to solve my weight and overhead issues. I consistently exercised, from the moment I healed from childbirth. I also implemented all the strategies my team and coaches suggested to increase my profits and decrease my expenses. But I still saw no huge improvement in either department.

However, once I stopped complaining — inwardly and outwardly — about my situation and made peace with myself, things began shifting. I was inspired to do a raw food cleanse because I felt for years that my diet was out of balance (I rarely ate fruits and veggies).

As I prepared for the cleanse, I realized I wasn’t truly enjoying the exercise program I’d been doing. I immediately stopped and joined a gym to do one thing: lift iron — my favorite way to exercise since I was 16. I hadn’t been in a gym like this for over five years. It was exhilarating!

Then I was challenged by my team and coach to hire more help. I did but it fell apart before we made traction. However, it led to new choices that made me feel better about outsourcing.

And during the month that I was making all these changes, I redid my entire schedule so it was 100% supportive of my desires concerning family and business.

The results: weight loss; a huge shift in the way I related to time; profit margins significantly increasing; and … I am extremely happy. I feel more at peace than I have in years.

So what’s the strategy?

  • Stop whining and complaining about what is. Make peace with it, even if you want something very different from your current reality.
  • Make small changes to create peace in your life right now, with what you have.
  • Take action on your inspired ideas to feel fulfilled, not because you’re desperate for results.

A very important part of my success was because I didn’t base my joy on my results. There were many days during this process that I had to release irritation when the scale, my bank account or free time didn’t look the way I wanted. After I created my ideal schedule lots of things threatened to push me back into my old mode of operation.

I made peace with the mission, not perfectly implementing my cleverly crafted plan. I’m still a work-in-progress but I have no doubt where I’ll be a month from now … and I’m not attached to the outcome. =)

Jeanna Gabellini is a Master Business Coach who assists high achieving entrepreneurs, corporate leaders & their teams to leverage fun, systems and intentionality for high-octane results. An entrepreneur for 25 years she has a treasure trove of kick-butt tools to give you peace & profits. Get your complimentary audio “Transforming from Chaotic Entrepreneur to Conscious Leader” here: http://www.MasterPeaceCoaching.com/freecd.

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